In the few days since I deactivated my Facebook account, I've noticed my reading and writing volume and desire has increased substantially. My abandonment of the giant social outlet wasn't calculated or even thought about. I was simply sitting at my laptop, writing schedules and answering athletes' emails and went to write another stupid narcissistic post on FB and suddenly realized how bogged down I had gotten by the tediousness of the site. I sat back in my rickety chair and tried to remember the last interesting thing I learned on FB other than voyeurism is alive and well. I couldn't think of one thing. That lead me to dwell on the "friends" I had accumulated over the last year or so, 722 of them. Realistically, I have, a handful, a dozen at most. I'm also aware that a few of my FB friends have made several negative comments about me in public. Unfortunately, I was too weak to "defriend" them for fear of the confrontation, mostly. So, I simply deactivated my account.
I was immediately swathed in both relief and anxiety. Why anxiety? I felt that the loss of FB would be a huge dent in my reach in a marketing sense. I would lose contact with potential clients and clinic attendees. It's a risk I'll take.
What have I found since releasing myself from Facebook? I guess you could say I've found myself again. I used to write A LOT. I used to read A LOT. I used to think A LOT. I see now that the abundant time I spent staring at FB with my eyes glassed over from the banality of information rotating by like an assembly line of mundane daily existence was sucking both the time and creativity from me. Oh, I'm not saying it was just the boring substance I was reading; it was also my own boring contribution to the assembly line of posts. I was getting disgusted with my own posts. It was like putting on an ugly sweater and only noticing just how stupid you looked when you were already out in public.
So, yeah, I'll lose an audience to whom I promote my business but I've gained so much in return. I have more time to devote to athletes I coach. I've been reading a lot more. I've been thinking about a ton of topics to write about. I've been writing more. I also noticed that traffic on my blog is up 300% since dropping FB, something I never considered. It seems that my daily drivels on Facebook not only took away my drive to write more meaningful things on my site but it also diluted anyone's interest in reading further than the two-sentence self promotion posts I was splattering on my FB page.
All in all it's been a good thing, leaving Facebook. See you around, "friends".
I miss the days when people's lives weren't splattered all over Facebook, Twitter & cie. For the most part I think it's a waste of life. Heh, just stop for a minute and look at people walking in the streets... chances are they're looking at their smartphone. There's no such thing as privacy nowadays unless you're willing to go off the grid.
ReplyDeleteGood on you.
I would like to do a tally and see what % of my FB friends I have actually met/talked to.
ReplyDeleteI just went to the toilet, but you missed out on the experience for not being on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook.
ReplyDeleteThere's no "Like" button on Blogger sites, so you'll have to settle for LOL.
Deletei'm all for you doing whatever it takes to drop more knowledge on the blog!
ReplyDeleteBut how are you going to know which bar I'm at, talking shit about you?
ReplyDeleteSame way I always do, Brownie, by listening to my police scanner in my ammo filled bunker-basement.
ReplyDeleteI for one would live a much less full life with out Facebook (I'm not kidding)
ReplyDeleteit's like anything else IMHO (even running)
it can be used as a tool, an outlet, a source of inspiration...
or a requirement... a task... an albatross
:-)
Good for you, Tim. I much enjoy your blog and am happy to get your thoughts here. Looking forward the rest of the How to be an Ultrarunner series, a newbie myself. Happy reading, blogging and thinking...
ReplyDeleteHey, "It's all about pace".
ReplyDeleteWith over 1 billion active users monthly, I would say you're not alone in your feelings. Same with Television. It's not my problem if people like it and/or need it - more power to them.
Thank god there is still strava.
ReplyDeleteI'm with you. I unceremoniously signed off FB last November. Got tired of the one-dimensional nature of how we all present ourselves. And, the reality that you don't own your FB profile, FB does finally really sunk in. FB, as a business, is about accumulating data about us, crunching it and selling it to people/companies we really don't want to have it.
ReplyDeleteNow I just read blogs where people are always multi-dimensional and really interesting.
As much as I enjoy your FB posts, I enjoy reading your blog as well. Looking forward to following your Leadman quest.. I'll be studying the How to be an Ultra Pacer in prep for some Leadville pacing this summer!
ReplyDeleteHi Tim,
ReplyDeleteglad I saw you blog.. I just tried to tag you in a funny FB story and you were gone! I thought you had defriended me! :-)
For the 10 minutes/day I get on FB, I will miss your occasional wit, humor, quick updates and pictures. I'm glad you kept your blog.
ReplyDeleteI'm jealous you have 12 friends.
Whatever works for you, man. I'm not a Facebook hater, but I limit it almost entirely to family, just so I have some remote clue what they are up to. Honestly I think they've already moved on to some new social media channel I don't even know about yet.
ReplyDeleteWho the hell is griping about you? Why can't we all just get along?
I think that everyday as I hit that FB app on my phone... what am I doing?? Well, as long as you don't disappear on us Tim, it will all be okay! Read on, write on, train on and keep your happy :)
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ReplyDeleteI've thought about this a lot lately too and have started weeding through my FB friends. I still keep them as friends, but remove their posts from my newsfeed. I only keep a few feeds of interest or need coming through that way and miss out on all the crap.
One of the most freeing things I have ever done was delete facebook from my life, for a lot of the same reasons you mentioned. Glad you have found outlets you can work with.
ReplyDeleteI tried the same thing in early January, but realized it's the easiest way to connect with my very large family. And I have to admit...the public displays of stupidity can be entertaining at times.
ReplyDeleteYou'll be back.... ;)
ReplyDeleteMy husband and I de-activated our FB accounts for the same reasons in January 2009...we came back last summer, un-friended 3/4 of our "friends" and thought we had a handle on it. Unfortunately, it is a true - it's a total time suck of mindless activity. Sadly, my job is boring and has gaps of computer time. I still keep my "friends" to a number of people I know personally and care for (and hope likewise back). Good for you! Write more blog posts! I, too, notice, FB over-takes of meaningful writings of the blogs. Rant over. Keep it up!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on breaking free of "the suck!" I often how much more time I would have for other things if I were to be rid of fb. Keep on inspiring!
ReplyDeleteBut how will i know how the beard is progressing?
ReplyDeleteGood for you, I've quit it a few times but have found (and this a scary reflection of the reliance) that I've "needed" it for things, mostly for contact information that I can't/don't get otherwise.
ReplyDeleteThe clueless stuff (e.g. relatives and acquaintances talking about TV shows) can be infuriating, but even the stuff I "agree" with can be drivel.